Aside from all that, as weak as this sounds, my confidence is in the gutter rn and i dont even think who i am would attract these girls anways. Im outta shape which can be fixed, but i dont own a home, i dont live by himself, my current car is kinda shitty, and im a homebody that would rather stay in than run around town. Plus i still love my gf, as toxic as this is, and i don't wanna turn my back on her when she is having health issues and a tough time in her life, even though she probably doesn't deserve a guy like me.
This sounds selfish but it’s really not. You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of someone else. I know it isn’t easy to pull yourself out of a funk but the first place (for me anyway) to start is to get in shape. Then the confidence will come naturally.
Don’t worry about what you don’t have, be thankful for what you do have. Just because you don’t have a house or a nice car doesn’t mean you won’t tomorrow. True friends and girlfriends don’t care about that shit anyway. Not having those things right now helps weed out the riff raff from the gate so look at it as a positive.
I’ve seen people who have been in toxic relationships, ended the relationship and ended up being better as “just friends” than they ever were “together”. If you want to help this woman, would it be easier to do it as just a friend and not having the added worry of trying to maintain the relationship?
Don’t worry about a car. I had an old Plymouth Acclaim and was embarrassed to be seen in it. I went through 3 or 4 girls with it. I ended up having sex with the 1st girl in the back seat and was never embarrassed of it again!
A great way to meet people, strengthen character and build confidence is to volunteer to do charity work. Personally I find it very fulfilling. I do it because I want to help people, not because I want to change people’s opinion of me but people will see you in a different light.
You don’t have to go “out on the town” to meet people. Walk to the gym (if it’s within walking distance). Stop and eat at a restaurant on the way home. There’s been quite a few times when I’ve gone by houses that people were moving into or working on and I stopped and offered to help. I’ve made quite a few friendships this way. There’s all kinds of ways to be “social” without running around. Keep it simple.
I wish nothing but good for both you and your girlfriend. I really hope everything works out for the best